Summer started two weeks ago and before it even began I decided to overcommit myself to more things than I can reasonably do. As the two weeks have gone by, fighting my exhaustion and trying to still do the things I love (like writing for this blog) I realised why I had pressured myself into overexerting myself this summer. Talking it over with friends helped me compose a list of top 5 reasons why we often pressure ourselves into doing things without ever considering alternatives:
1. Peer Pressure: Having friends is more fun than not, but when it comes to competitiveness there’s nothing more deadly than a little ‘friendly competition’. Honestly, we compete less with strangers than we do with our own pals. You may do it consciously or unconsciously but either way it’s pretty unhealthy. Declutter your life by pressing stop on that competitive edge and pressure you’re putting upon yourself. Instead do something you want to do instead of what you think you should be doing because your friends are doing it too.
2. Self-confidence: Try being confident with yourself and you achievements. Don’t stress about what the rest of the world is doing. Just work at your own pace, recognise how you function and as Mad-Eye Moody/Barty Crouch Jr. said, “work to your strengths”. Again, believe in yourself and do something because you want to do it!
3. Guilt: Sometimes we set too many goals! Yes it’s possible. Yes it’s awful when you don’t achieve them. And no you don’t need that kind of stress. Knowing how you work and recognising what you think is too much is all a part of selecting what you want to take on your plate. Ultimately, the goal is to not feel guilty if you decide on enjoying yourself and not taking on too much! Don’t feel guilty for putting your self before your work/job/school.
4. Priorities: What’s the most important thing in the world to you at this moment? Work toward that. Prioritising is another word for decluttering. Removing the unnecessary and focusing on what you (not the world) think is important. Setting reasonable, achievable goals is good. Make a list, they’re seriously the best because checking off those boxes is an amazing feeling!
5. Lack of knowledge: This plays into the feeling of guilt. Not knowing that you can take a break, that you deserve a break is harmful. Feeling awful that you’re not doing as many things as someone else you know? That’s harmful. Because you’re not taking into account that you’re an individual working at your own pace. Go on that vacation.Schedule your life and make sure to add in a few breaks because you need and deserve it.
I know everyone’s heard the tired phrase ‘know yourself’ but that’s exactly my goal this summer. I want to figure out what I want out of life and what I want to achieve and figure out what makes me happy. Set a goal for yourself too and let me know in the comments what you think of the above list!
Until next time,